The Micro-Yes Ritual 

30-Minute Homework

For the next 7 days, your goal is to strengthen connection using tiny moments (micro-yeses).

STEP 1 — Pick ONE of the micro-yeses below

Only choose one, not all four. Make it simple.

Options (pick one):

1. Eye contact + “tell me more.”
   When your partner talks, look at them and say, “Tell me more,” instead of multitasking.

2. Forehead touch + three breaths.
   Touch foreheads and breathe slowly together — three deep breaths, nothing fancy.

3. Five-word scan.
   Ask your partner five quick words: heavy, highlight, hope, help, next.
   (“What felt heavy today? What was the highlight? What are you hoping for? Where do you need help? What’s next for tomorrow?”)

4. One encouraging sentence before sleep.
   Say one sentence every night that lifts them up.
   Examples: “I’m proud of you.” “You handled today well.” “I love how hard you try.”

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STEP 2 — Do the one you chose 3 times every day

Not big moments. Not perfection. Just 3 small attempts each day.

Examples:

• Morning + afternoon + bedtime

• Before work + after work + before sleep

• Breakfast + dinner + while watching TV

If you forget, just start again — no guilt.

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STEP 3 — Use the soft-start sentence once this week

At least one time this week, when you need something from your partner, say this sentence:

“I feel ___ and need ___; could we try ___?”

Examples to make it easy:

• “I feel stressed and need structure; could we try planning our week on Sunday?”

• “I feel lonely and need closeness; could we try watching a show together tonight?”

• “I feel tired and need rest; could we try going to bed earlier this week?”

Think of this sentence like a gentle door opener — it helps you ask for what you need without sounding attacking or blaming.

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Purpose of the Weekly Practice

Not to “fix everything.”
Not to be perfect.

The goal is simply this:

Small yeses → often → calmly → consistently.

That rhythm builds trust over time — and makes the harder conversations much easier later.

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Daily Prayer for Couples Before Bed

This is short enough to say every night — hand-in-hand, shoulder-to-shoulder, or forehead-to-forehead.

God, You search us and You know us.
You see the quiet places of our hearts
and You never turn away.

Teach us to turn toward each other
the way You always turn toward us.
Give us gentleness when we are tired,
patience when we are overwhelmed,
and tenderness when we are hurt.

Heal what has been strained,
strengthen what is good,
and build trust through small daily yeses.

Make our home a refuge,
our words a shelter,
and our connection a testimony of Your faithfulness.
Bind us together with steadfast love.
Amen.