CLASS 2 HOMEWORK

THE 5-DAY LOCATE THE HEART EXPERIENCE

Before each daily challenge, pause and look at the question bank. The goal isn’t to finish every question — the goal is to create one deep, meaningful moment together. If you only get to one question, that’s perfect. Both of you should answer, and both of you must protect the space so your partner knows they’re safe, heard, and that nothing shared in vulnerability will ever be used against them later.​ Got questions? Email Overflowchurchtv@gmail.com or message me directly in groupme direct chat. 

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DAY 1 — The Past That Shapes Today

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Childhood memories, family patterns, early emotional messages, and wounds that still shape reactions.

 

Deep Knowing Questions

• Childhood emotional atmosphere

• What shaped insecurities

• Emotional messages learned

• Past events shaping stress

 

21 Curiosity Questions

• Something you loved as a kid

• First person who saw you

• Calming smell

• Favorite teacher

• Someone you wish you thanked

 

Devotional

Proverbs 20:5 — Your spouse’s heart is deep water; wisdom draws it out gently.

 

Application

Ask: “Help me understand, not fix.”

 

Practice

Share one childhood story that shaped who you are.

 

 

DAY 2 — The Story Still Being Interpreted

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Identity shifts, transitions, old expectations, pressures from former seasons.

 

Deep Knowing Questions

• Old identities tugging

• Expectations shaping today

• Who you're becoming

 

21 Curiosity Questions

• Who inspired you this year

• Skill you'd learn

• Habit you're proud of

• Simple pleasure

• Unspoken dream

 

Devotional

Romans 12:2 — Honor who your spouse is becoming.

 

Application

Ask: “Who are you becoming in this season?”

 

Practice

Share one identity you’re outgrowing and one identity being formed in you.

 

 

DAY 3 — Quiet Hopes & Quiet Hurts

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Unspoken dreams, fears, fragile hopes, private disappointments.

 

Deep Knowing Questions

• Dreams not expressed

• Fears carried alone

• Fragile hopes

 

21 Curiosity Questions

• Special song

• Feeling appreciated

• A moment of hard laughter

• Best compliment

• Bravest thing

 

Devotional

Psalm 139:23–24 — God searches gently; invite each other into the quiet places.

 

Application

Share one hope and one hurt without defending.

 

Practice

Name one quiet hope and one quiet hurt from this year.

 

 

DAY 4 — The Right-Now World

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Current stress, emotional bandwidth, workload, spiritual and mental rhythms.

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Deep Knowing Questions

• What's on my mind

• Stress sources

• Hopes and dreads

• Happiness meter

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21 Curiosity Questions

• Part of routine you enjoy

• Life catchphrase

• Calming smell

• Simple pleasure

• A way to lighten your day

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Devotional

Psalm 139:1–3 — God knows your rhythms; mirror His presence through attention.

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Application

Communicate: “You matter enough for me to slow down.”

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Practice

Share your bandwidth number (1–10) with explanation.

 

 

DAY 5 — Household Needs & Shared Life

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Mental load, responsibilities, invisible work, expectations, and weekly rhythms.

 

Deep Knowing Questions

• Overwhelming responsibilities

• Heavy parts of the week

• Support needed

• Shared life improvements

 

21 Curiosity Questions

• Ideal free day

• What admiration looks like

• Simple pleasure

• Make tomorrow lighter

• Gratitude sport role

 

Devotional

1 Peter 3:8 — Tenderness, unity, sympathy, humility guide shared life.

 

Application

Ask: “What can I carry with you this week?”

 

Practice

Choose one action to lighten your partner’s week.